So you’re a high achiever and you know, it, you’re always busy hustling to improve, always looking for that next big thing. And in some ways, you got it all together, maybe a great job, a healthy relationship with your partner or spouse, and an act of lifestyle.
But despite all of this, or maybe because of it, you still feel something not quite right in your head heart and your soul is not because you’re doing something wrong or that you lack talent or potential is because there’s a missing piece somewhere in the puzzle or many missing pieces that we haven’t learned how to look for yet.
So recently I was reading a book and I’ll get to the book in just a minute. But what I learned from the book is that it’s in your pain where your next steps will come from. So many of us have fallen into different traps. You know, when it comes to our pain, we try to project our pain on other people.
We do that in the ways of the community. To others or in our actions, sometimes in our social media presence, you can tell by people’s posts, what type of pain they have dealt with, or that they’re currently dealing with. Sometimes we try to just forget, I paint, you know, act like it never happened, and never deal with whatever caused that pain initially in our life.
And that’s a sign that we need to get some help, you know, maybe find someone that we can talk about. To share those thoughts with, and our concerns with, and maybe, you know, get some support in that area. Then sometimes we try to avoid ours. You know, meaning we go into new situations and we have developed coping mechanisms or ways that we try on our own to protect ourselves from allowing that pain or that source of pain to reoccur again in our life.
And we end up, self-sabotaging trying to control everything around us, and then last but not least, we try to see past ours. We just hope and wish everything gets better, without doing the necessary work. We want everything to just go away, kinda like close our eyes. And when we opened them again, everything would just be fine.
So my questions to you are, are you currently being held captive from what has happened to you in the past or you current or currently happening to you in the present? Do you bring your pressures into every situation that you’re currently in? You know, as a source of protection, you’ve developed a lot of rules.
I always crack jokes and say sometimes people’s rules have rules. So from the book that I was reading, I learned that we must learn how to use our pain and the title of the book is called Built to Serve by Evan Carmichael. And then his book, he clearly points out a method that you can use to address your pain.
And what you have to do is kind of relive the moment, the things that have caused you the most frustration or trouble or setbacks in your life. And within that, he talks to you in a way where he shows you that by helping others who have experienced or who are currently experiencing some of the same pain that you’re going to.
You will find happiness in that activity. So he said, by doing this, you will learn who you should be serving, and why you should be serving those individuals. And it will clearly come to you how to serve those individuals. What do you need to own up to in your past situations or experiences in order to release yourself from them?
Because oftentimes we feel like we didn’t do anything wrong and in some cases that’s true. And in some cases, we play the biggest role ever in our, situations start brainstorming how you can use your pain to serve. Again, this is a heavy place podcast, and I always recommend the greatest gift that you can give to a person is to show them some love.
Make sure it’s heavy. Love. See you in the next episode.